Ever wonder why you suck at really living your purpose?
A great many people suck at living their purpose,so you are in good company.
There are many reasons living your purpose escapes you. Here are just a few reasons why you might spend your life pursuing something you view as elusive.
1. You Don’t Think You Are Worth a Unique Purpose (You spend your life second guessing your dream so instead of developing practical applications you develop intentional excuses.)
2. You Give Others Permission to Live Your Life (If you feel like your choices will “rock the boat”, you defer what you want and resign yourself to accepting what others want for you.)
3. You Fear if You Fail at Your Purpose You Won’t Get Another Chance (You set the bar to perfect but resign yourself to inertia rather than taking a chance and making a mistake)
4. You Are Overwhelmed by Your Own Ideas (You have convinced yourself your “Ah HAH moment should be “Oh No!”)
5. The Idea of Having a Unique Purpose Feels Selfish (Spending time cultivating your true purpose feels too indulgent and self serving)
6. You Have Allowed Life To Give You What It Wants Rather Than What You Need(It’s easier to just go with the flow than make waves, even if you are settling for a destination you really aren’t thrilled about achieving.)
The list goes on and on.
We suck at living our purpose because we think doing so is contradictory to what we are supposed to be doing.
We suck at living our purpose because we put self imposed constraints and parameters on how far and wide we allow ourselves to create ripples, especially if those ripples rock stable expectations.
We confuse purpose with the role we are currently in.We tell ourselves our purpose is to be a good mother, father or friend and have trouble seeing beyond that.
We train ourselves to believe our purpose should arise from our life’s work.
Often we believe we only have a single purpose rather than realizing our purpose can change at different stages of our lives.
And the real tragedy is often we think our purpose is to change the world, when really it may be meant just to change us.
Purpose comes in many sizes and shapes. A purpose can affect a nation or a single person.Our purposes are not defined by one specific skill or talent as much as by a driven passion.
Having talked with many people who discovered their purpose,I know once you realize your purpose, you will never go back to a life that omits or minimizes it again.
Some people seach all their lives for a purpose right under their nose.
What about you? Are you committed to a purpose or still trying to run it down?
Did you have a purpose you let slip through your fingers or give up a purpose to appease someone?
Are you stifling your purpose because you imagine it would be monumental to really live it?
You can’t play a bigger game if you don’t know how the stakes and how to position yourself and you’ll never be able to win if you don’t even try to play.
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