You Had me at Merlot, I Know, So Let’s Go

(This is one of my favorite posts. Updated from two published several years ago…ENJOY!)

 

Yes, I know, that’s not what SHE SAID.

She also never said, “You had me at “Van Gogh” or at “Bordeaux”.  But I bet the headline caught your eye and you just had to take a look and now you’re thinking, “Wait, this is not going to be about wine and good times at all.”

Wait…Stop! It is!! Well, it is going to be about whiners which agreed, is nothing like fine wine, but if you leave you’ll miss the part where the party begins and everyone likes a good party, so stick with me and I’ll finish the story.

Because maybe this story is really YOUR story.

Maybe you ARE looking for some good times; maybe even some great times and maybe you really want to begin to see the sparkles back in your life, the joy, the pleasures, the moments when you jump out of bed excited to begin another day.

Maybe you have a lot of ideas about what would make things different but you are just stuck trying to get any started. Well. I know how to help you find those good times and get to that joy. I’d love to take you to that party, but as long as you’re in the middle of your own Unhappy Hour having your favorite Whine, I don’t stand much of a chance tearing you away.

You know that pity party where you feel overwhelmed with your life, disappointed in nearly every aspect of where you are or where you are headed and full of regret and sorrow over the mistakes and errors of your ways, the time you wasted, the dreams you never pursued?

When you are so invested in that soiree’ you can’t see what you are cheating yourself out of experiencing and little will make you stop pouring another glass of “poor me” while you sob yourself into a state of “nothing ever works out for me.”

It’s hard to compete with a Whine and Unhappy Hour Affair, but if I could get your attention long enough to invite you to try a different kind of get together, you might discover a way to reinvent those good times, reimagine that dream or purpose and recreate the life you really want. I want you to try a different type of Happy Hour with me.

No, It’s not too late. Whether you are 30, 50, or 70 we can have that talk. Don’t get hung up on how much time or money, resources or talent you have. That’s just more Whine.

Life is too short for unhappy hours, whether they are at the bar, in your relationships, in your career or in your life.

Unhappy hours waste precious time we never get back. I know.

Often people think I have always had the job of my dreams or the career to die for. This is far from the truth. I have experienced much of what you may be dealing with now.

If you have ever been unhappy at your job and wishing you could spend more time at home…So have I!

If you have ever felt like you job was not going in a direction you had hoped and you just wanted to do something different…So have I!

If you have felt like your life lacked purpose or a plan…I know that feeling as well.

Even if you have had a great job but just feel like it doesn’t do anything for you anymore…I certainly have felt that as well.

I know what it is like to feel burned out, disillusioned, bored and frustrated even in careers where the pay was excellent and the perks were many.

I also know what it is like to have a fire in my belly and an idea I just wanted to run with.

If you have wished you could just do something you love, something you race to get involved with each day, something that speaks to your soul, I so hear you, because that was once me as well.

There is little you probably feel that I have not already felt.

If you are worried about having enough money to pursue your dreams or if you are trying to figure out how to squeeze some “me” time into an already overfull 24 hours, I have totally been in those shoes.

That’s why I know how to get you to where you want to be with less frustration and as quickly as possibly.

What do you NOT want to regret at the end of your life?

What would you do differently if you knew how much time you had left?

What do you just wish you could wake up tomorrow and start doing?

Because. I asked those questions too and the answers finally made me realize I had to do something about my dream, my passion, my direction and I can help you do the same. WHY?

Because I know…just how you feel. You had me at “I know” .

And I’ll be happy to join you in your Jerry Maguire moment

and Yes, I CAN Show You the Money.

Kathy Brunner is an encorepreneur coach who helps people create a second or third career from their passion. Want the fastest way for her to show you the money you can make from your passion? Learn about her Specialized Programs and sign up for a Free Consultation. 

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Are You an Entrepreneur Having a Fling or a Commitment?

 

After giving a presentation to a group of business owners last week, I was not surprised to find that some entrepreneurs attending had thriving, prosperous businesses while others were struggling just to make ends meet.

There are a few obvious red flags that separate the successes from the ones struggling and if you are an entrepreneur, it might be helpful to know what those are.

FIVE RED FLAGS THAT INDICATE YOUR BUSINESS MIGHT BE A FLING RATHER THAN A COMMITMENT:

  1. You are all talk and no action. You talk about what you want your business to be rather than taking the steps to get it there.
  2. You are not committed to a  distinct plan to moving your business beyond today or tomorrow
  3. You are leaning  how to grow your business via you-tube videos, webinars, and Google searches (whenever you want to learn something, you head to one of the countless “How To____” podcasts, webinars or online training).
  4. You have no idea where your next client is coming from and can’t reliably predict what type of income you will earn in any given month. (You get excited if someone even visits your website or signs up for a Consultation).
  5. You believe you can be successful at your business without anyone’s help (You avoid spending money on virtual assistants, coaches, technical specialists and/or high end training)

When you are trying to build a business, one of the best pieces of advice I can offer is to make a definite commitment to invest in yourself and build your business with the best tools possible.

Sure, there is nothing wrong with getting some information from a few webinars or free trainings, but it is unrealistic to think you can build a successful business without some specific authority based instruction. That would be like saying it would be possible to build a beautiful home with little to no expertise or professional advice.

If you wouldn’t build a house without specific knowledge in structural engineering, architecture and construction, why would you even imagine you can build a business without the right skills?

Businesses handled like a fling, often don’t know where or when their next client will be coming. Like a fling that has no definite plans or expectations for the future, hoping and wishing for more clients is just like spinning a roulette wheel wishing for some luck.

Great businesses aren’t lucky, they are vehicles that have developed plans and strategies to move in the right direction.

When people tell me they will get a coach when they are more successful, what I really hear is, “When I reach the pinnacle of my success, I will be able to afford it”. But, many people don’t reach that pinnacle ever, because they never sought the services of experts who could help them reduce that learning curve significantly and get there with far fewer scars.

Waiting until you are more successful to get a coach is like waiting until you are terminal to call a doctor.

Great businesses know where their clients are coming from, have successful marketing strategies and consequently have the ability to predict income. Great business owners seek help from those who are experts in their field and continue to grow with the help of coaches who keep them accountable and offer strategies and suggestions which go far beyond a Google search or free webinar.

Owning a business is a huge commitment. Treating it like anything less diminishes its worth and sabotages its growth.

If the business you started has become more like a fling than a true commitment,if it feels like you are stuck in an expensive hobby instead of a growing financial enterprise, if you feel like you are not taking your business as seriously as you should be, then it’s time.

It’s time to decide if you want a fling that offers no assurance that it will be around tomorrow or the next day or if you really want to be a business owner and are committed to doing whatever it takes to make that business work.

Flings can be fun, tempting and whimsical. They require little thought, planning or follow-up. They are temporary and often costly in the long run.

Commitments require responsibility, hard word and strategy. They are based on dedication and the desire to move into the future.

You just have to ask:
” Do I want to do what I love and make it last, or simply do what I do and see what happens?”

If you are ready to work with a coach who can help you move your dreams into a business that grows, lasts and works forever, you can sign up for the COMPLIMENTARY CONSULT and yes, that 30 minutes might seem like a Fling, and maybe like many other successful entrepreneurs, you’ll choose a more committed model.

Either way, A Fling or a Commitment is up to you!

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How Hungry are You?

 

Have you ever sat down to a meal and said, ” I’m so hungry I could eat a _____?”  When you are that hungry, you often will eat whatever is available. If you are eating in a restaurant, you may order more than typical because you just want some food. Sometimes you will choose something that may not be exceptionally appealing but will satisfy the hunger you are experiencing.

When I am coaching clients, I often discover many are very hungry for whatever they can grab onto to help them make a career leap. They are often desperate for information and tactics which will help them achieve their goal of becoming their own boss.

Now, Don’t get me wrong. Hungry clients are great, but I often caution them to take the time to discern if what they are hearing and learning is really pertinent to them. While I want clients who are ready, willing and excited to make the leap from employee to business owner, I don’t ever want to take advantage of that hunger and coach people who are satisfied with any information they receive.

The problem with being hungry to start a business can mean you permit less than exceptional guidance to satiate you. You might hear countless pieces of information from how to use social media in your business, to how to craft an offer, how to set up your business website to where to locate your ideal client.

While all that information can be vital, your head can be swimming with bits and pieces of anything you grab onto to fill your empty need. By itself each piece of info has its merits but whenever you are simply non descriminate about what you will swallow, you often find that an immediate need was met but a long term need is still present.

In other words, you gain a lot of information but the practicality of what is specific for you is often lost.

 

Here are FIVE THINGS TO CONSIDER WHEN YOU ARE STARVING TO MAKE A CAREER LEAP:

  1. Do You Trust the Person You are Getting the Info From?( Everyone can tell you they are an “expert” but are you getting your information from someone who has been there and done what you want to do?)
  2. Are You Getting Strategies Which Make Sense to You? ( Swallowing a lot of information tends to confuse even the most organized person). Make sure you are getting a step by step practical way to satsify the kinds of needs you have for growing your business.
  3. Have You Checked Out the Entire Menu Before Trying to Satsify Your Hunger? (Spend some time really determining what you want before you end up just settling for anything that sounds good.) Yes, You are hungry but would you eat something old, spoiled, or on its last legs?
  4.  Be Receptive to Trying a Few Options. ( There are a lot of coaches and advice out there. You need not settle for one. Schedule strategy calls with several.) Don’t limit satisfying your hunger with the next best thing. Try out a few morsels before you choose something that “tastes” right.  Remember every steak does not taste like every other steak. BE SMART and CHOOSY.
  5. Don’t Confuse Hunger with Panic. Sure some people eat when they are  anxious and some people start to download every piece of info and google every option available when they are up against the wall. If you are about to lose a job or already have, take a moment and just spend some time reflectively. Be proactive about what you will swallow and less reactive because you are scared, confused or anxious. Digest because you want to not because you have no choice.

 

Right now maybe you have been toying with the idea that you would like to start your own business. Maybe you’ve had an idea in the back of your head for some time now. Maybe you can see the writing on the wall and you know you are in a dead end career. Maybe you are so frustrated you feel hungry for any piece of advice you can get.

I get career hunger. I get career anxiety and career burnout and I totally get career frustration.

I also want clients to realize that I prefer to help them satisfy a long term need than an immediate hunger. What I mean is that I think it’s better to help someone create a plan and a path that will end up getting them where they want to be rather than letting them grab a map and hope they are good independent navigators.

This doesn’t mean I don’t tell clients when I am not a good coach for them. I absolutely tell hungry clients who will settle for any type of help that I may be the wrong coach for them. Yes, I want hungry clients, but I don’t want indiscriminate ones. In the long run, if I help a client change the entire direction of their life by helping them move into successful entrepreneurship, I know I have succeeded in satisfying their hunger the right way.

So How Hungry Are You? Are you hungry enough to want something to satisfy your need but not so hungry you will settle for just anything to fill it?

Are you ready to work with a coach who cares about filling you up for life rather than the next few hours?

Do you want to work with a coach who has your best interests in mind instead of with someone who wants to control your thoughts,opinions and your pocketbook for the next several months?

Do you want a coach who customizes a “diet” for you to succeed in your business rather than who lets you eat everything everyone else has?

Are you hungry enough to try something you never did to get something you never had?

Then…Let’s Do This. Contact me for a FREE STRATEGY SESSION.

Feel free to ask me any questions you have and before you decide you are so hungry you could eat a ________, let’s see if there is anything on my menu that sounds like perfect food for your heart, soul and business.

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How to Discern Between a Chance and Opportunity

“I always wanted to start my own business but I am terrified of taking that chance.”

I hear this often from clients especially those who are at a crossroads in their careers either because of a significant burnout or because they have been given that ominous “pink slip” and know they have to make a decision about what to do next.

I will be the first to tell you that it is very difficult to have clarity about the next step when circumstances upset the familiar. I have had clients cry about leaving a job they hate just because it wasn’t on their terms. I have had clients become angry when they were let go from a job they were counting the days to leave and I have had clients who desperately wanted to do any other work but the one they are doing become terrified when it is time to launch into something new.

The unknown is always a bit unsettling. Even if you don’t love the familiar, it still is just that. Often I hear people who want to leave a career or start a business talk about how scary it is to take that chance.

BUT THERE ARE SOME BIG DIFFERENCES BETWEEN CHANCE AND OPPORTUNITY

A Chance is often an action not defined by careful thought and planning. You take a chance on having a winning ticket, a chance on leaving the house on a cloudy day without your umbrella, a chance on getting through the traffic light while it’s still yellow, a chance on trying out a new hair color. A chance often involves more luck than preparation.

An Opportunity however is something you get as a result of a situation which you may or may not have had anything to do with. An Opportunity is like a gift you can choose to open or not.

Opportunities mean things are much more likely to happen because of your actions unlike a chance where the odds may be no more or less in your favor. An Opportunity is extended when you have circumstances change. Losing your job can be an Opportunity. Relocating can be an Opportunity. Being introduced to someone you click with can be an Opportunity. You can be offered an Opportunity to change a habit, a lifestyle, a direction.

SO WHAT SHOULD YOU DO ABOUT THAT JOB LOSS?

When you are displaced from your job and need to look for another type of employment either as a business owner or in a new career that is an Opportunity. It may not feel like one in the midst of it but it is something extended to you as a result of a circumstance.

When you decide to start your own business you should not be afraid of taking a Chance because most likely you have thought long and hard about what type of business you want to create and how you will go about it. You have spent time and energy on developing a vision for your business.

We don’t spend time and energy on chances.

When you are deliberate and discerning about what step to take next, you are not taking a Chance you are accepting an Opportunity.

This is not to say there won’t be some scary and unfamiliar moments when you worry about your choices but keep in mind starting your business is not anywhere like buying a lottery ticket and hoping for the best.

If you are thinking about starting a business, you have no doubt done some research, looked at pros and cons, perhaps talked with other business owners, developed a type of plan on what you will do first and maybe even worked with a coach. You have taken steps that can lead to success.

There are few steps to take that can get you closer to success with just chance.

So if you have found yourself in the situation where employment is going to be changing,if you know you are going to be unemployed or leaving your current job and you are wondering what to do next. Ask yourself:

Am I really just taking a Chance or can this be the Opportunity I have been waiting for?

THE WAY YOU RESPOND WILL HAVE A HUGE IMPACT ON THE RESULT 

An optimist sees Opportunities everywhere, while a pessimist blames Chance on the situation.

You are not a victim of your circumstance unless you choose to play that roll.

Are you ready to move from Day Job to a DREAM BUSINESS? 
Schedule a complimentary consult and let’s talk about how you can start off on the right path to success.
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Are You an Entrepreneur Who Needs Glasses?

Most entrepreneurs dream big dreams and have great visions for their business.I think that is wonderful and wouldn’t want it any other way.I love to work with entrepreneurs who don’t give up after a setback and are committed to making their business a success.

But sometimes entrepreneurs miss the details and the subtleties that impact their businesses.They might dedicate every minute to working on their business but still not be achieving what they hoped to. Not long ago, I had a conversation with a woman who said, ” I thought I was doing everything I should be doing to build a successful business but I often felt like I was trying to navigate blindfolded, like I just couldn’t see the obvious even though it was right in front of my face.”

It’s true. Sometimes while trying to launch that vision into reality, some entrepreneurs need better eyes to see what is happening. They need to see the details that are keeping success from knocking on their door.

Sometimes you can be so close to something that it all blends together and looks familiar. This is especially true of solo entrepreneurs who are so involved they often see their business like the vision in their mind’s eye rather than the reality their customers see.

It’s not hard to be so close to something that you don’t notice the flaws. I hardly know any entrepreneurs who at some point didn’t miss the obvious.

Sometimes the flaw is something subtle in the message you convey or something that snags a smooth flow in your delivery system.Sometimes the flaw involves the wrong type of marketing or the right ideal client but the wrong approach.Sometimes the flaw is something that continues to survive because the entrepreneur unintentionally feeds it the fuel it needs to grow.

You might think no business owner in their right mind would fuel a flaw, but many times a business owner doesn’t see those small flaws that affect the growth of the business because they don’t see clearly.The need “glasses” to help them discern the issues preventing the business from growing.

Few businesses are destined to fail from the beginning.In fact, I think just the opposite is true.I think many are destined for great success but some never realize that potential because they are viewed from a lens that has lost the ability to be objective, precise and discerning.

Instead of seeing the small things that can be fixed, they see a less than perfect vision and start throwing things at it in hopes to fix it.That behavior often just muddies the water because when you can’t see what you’re throwing at you can’t tell when you’ve hit the target.

If your business is not growing; not getting new clients, not earning more income, not stronger than it was last year, stop the madness.Stop trying to save it by trying a little of this and a little of that in the hope you will land on a magic potion

The only real magic potion in business is clarity and you can’t get a clear vision when you need another set of eyes to see what you can’t see.

I can’t tell you how often clients say, ” I don’t know why I never saw that before!”

But I can tell you that once they get some ‘glasses’ their vision is sharper and they can focus on their business with new perspective.

So, if you having been growing an expensive hobby, if you have tried to get clients in the door but so far feel like you are just spinning your wheels, if you are tired of just being the boss of a mediocre business that is not at all like the vision you had for it,let me help you see more clearly.

 FIX IT…FIRST AID FOR A STRUGGLING BUSINESS is finally being able to see with glasses made just for your business’s vision.

You’ll discover how to create the success you always envisioned in your business.

You won’t be throwing things at the wall and hope something sticks but you will learn how to work on the things that are broken and fix them so the business you had in mind is the business you have in reality.

Check it out.Don’t pretend you can navigate your vision when things are cloudy and nothing looks the way it should.

You started a business to succeed not fail.

What a shame that you might just need some “glasses” to make it sharp again.

 

Kathy Brunner is a certified career and business coach who helps people move from day jobs to Dream Businesses. Need some help to launch your dream or grow your business? Sign up for a complimentary, no obligation consult and tell Kathy what you need.

 

 

 

 

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Everyone Goofs even Smart Business Owners

 

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Did you watch the Academy Awards a few nights ago? Everyone is talking about how unfortunate it was to have announced the wrong winner for the Best Picture. It was unfortunate, but certainly not devastating, because everyone goofs sometime.

Of course, no one wants to wear egg on their face in public but I think it is a sign of transparency and just being human when we make a mistake, own up to it, and ask forgiveness if it has offended anyone. In fact, I tend to trust people who are not perfect more than those who pretend to be. WHY?

BECAUSE EVERYONE GOOFS.

I work with many new entrepreneurs who are terrified of putting themselves out there because they are so concerned what they have to offer may not be perfect. I say, “Be brave and ship the stuff you have. It should be good quality but it doesn’t have to be perfect.”

Your goal is not to be perfect but rather to be the best you know how to be.

Things will always fluctuate. Some things that worked at one point may have become stagnant or ineffective.There will always be something new that causes us to want to tweak our ideas and that’s a good thing. It means you and I are always on our toes trying to create the best experiences we can for our customers.

I know my customers don’t expect me to be perfect ( and if they do, they probably should not be my customers). I am just like everyone else. I can goof at times too. Recently, I developed a set of audio modules from a live program I did back in November called FIX IT…FIRST AID FOR A STRUGGLING BUSINESS. I offered those modules and handouts from the actual program on my last blog post. THEN…I goofed.

Somehow, the cost did not go through my shopping cart correctly and as a result there was no way for the buyers to get the downloaded product even though they were told they had purchased it. Did I have some frustrated customers? Yes!  Did I goof…well, something somewhere that I am ultimately responsible for did and so Yes!

I apologized to any customers, gave them a bigger discount on their purchase and fixed the details. Now there is a safe, secure checkout experience up and running again.

I did not intentionally cause the goof but I goofed and the world did not end.

So it is with everyone whether owning a business, being a parent, doing life with anyone. We are human.

Mistakes happen. Here are:

FIVE WAYS TO KNOW IF YOU ARE LETTING YOUR GOOFS DEFINE YOU

  1. You agonize over every detail of your goal but never seem to achieve it.
  2. You want everyone’s permission before you do what you want to do
  3. Waiting for the perfect time has become your mantra
  4. You talk more than you act about your ideas
  5. You play out the worst that can happen in your mind every time you reach an impasse.

Are you a business owner, especially one in a service(non product) business and not getting the clients you need or making the income you want to be making? Do you feel like there’s something wrong in your business or that you goofed up somewhere? Are you stuck wondering why things aren’t working?

Come check out the NEW SELF GUIDED AUDIO FIX IT MODULES. 

THE COST WILL NEVER BE THIS LOW AGAIN…my treat because I goofed.

Everyone Goofs, but not everyone sees it as a fatal mistake.

Smart people FIX IT and move on.

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It Seemed Like a Good Idea at the Time

We’ve all been in that place where what seemed like a good idea at the time ended up being one we regretted later.

I was looking over some photos last week and came across a picture of my cousin who was about 6 at the time. He was wearing a cast up to his thigh on his left leg; the result of rigging up several structures, included if I recall correctly, a wagon, a bushel basket and some type of long board on top of a mound of dirt, so he could “fly” off the top, pretending to be his favorite super hero. His idea, although not exceptional for a 6 year old boy, landed him in the emergency room, with a leg broken in two places.

I wasn’t immune to an idea that wasn’t so well thought out either. When I was about 7, I   wanted to have a lemonade stand with a friend of mine. Always the “step ahead” entrepreneur, I decided that to attract more people we should offer lemonade AND Popsicles for a slightly higher price. Oh, we attracted several customers, however, I had forgotten how quickly frozen Popsicles would melt on a warm day and while I place them in a cooler, I neglected to put in any ice! I found out rather quickly no one wanted a half melted Popsicle with their glass of lemonade.

Entrepreneurs sometimes look back on their business and wonder if it just seemed like a good idea at the time. When you are not getting clients or growing your business, when your revenue stream is starting to dry up or worse, when you can’t even attract a few clients let alone the volumes you dreamed about, you begin to wonder if you had such a great idea after all.

In many cases, the idea is not the problem, but rather the plan and it’s execution that was not well thought out. Sometimes a business is drowning in defeat but more because of what an entrepreneur does or doesn’t do than because the idea was poor.(After all, the Wright Brothers wanted to fly as well, they just thought of better options to accomplish it!).

Recently I offered an 8 week tele-course called Fix It…First Aid for a Struggling Business. I worked with several business owners who had some reservations about whether they made appropriate choices when trying to launch and sustain their business. Some had regrets about even trying to start their business, but what many discovered is that their ideas were not poor but rather their plan of execution was missing vital steps to make their business successful. ( You can read what the people who took the live course thought here!)

I see this all the time. People with great, often novel ideas, not making any money or getting any clients. Maybe this is you!

If you are ready to quit or wonder why you even started your business in the first place, If you are still trying to figure out how to make your business profitable and growing, If you are trying everything you know and you are still not making sales, maybe your business needs to fix some things too.

I’ve put together the same telecourse modules into a self guided course you can work through at your pace on your time frame to help you turn your business around.

IT WILL NOT BE OFFERED AGAIN AT THIS LOW PRICE!

Until the end of February, this is your chance to finally get to the bottom of why your business isn’t really thriving and get it back on track and growing.

On March 1, the price goes up.

To sweeten the deal a bit more, since it was just Valentine’s Day and I do love my peeps,  I’ll throw in my book, FINDING YOUR FIRE at no cost to everyone who purchases within the next 48 hours.

So what are you waiting for?

I can’t help you unless you really want to make your business all better.

If you ARE serious about finally taking your business seriously and making it profitable stop rigging up what doesn’t work and learn to fly the best way. Let’s Do This!

FIX IT…FIRST AID FOR YOUR STRUGGLING BUSINESS

 

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I Want to Stop Being a Witch

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“I don’t just want to stop being an employee, she volunteered, I want to stop being a witch.”

That’s what a new client said as we discussed what she wanted to do with her future. She has given me permission to share her comment but I am sure she is really saying what many people are thinking.

You see, when you are in a soul sucking job; one with a toxic environment, or a boss who is a narcissist or maybe one that makes you feel like someone you hardly recognize, it’s likely you might be just plain nasty and often to those you care about the most.

My client shared that she always saw herself as a tolerant, open-minded, generous person but that in the past two years, she had become sarcastic, narrow-minded and impatient.

“I come home not just tired but I’m often angry and every little thing sets me off. It’s like I spend all day holding it together and then when I leave I just explode.”

Truth be told, she is in a very difficult work situation. The culture there is undermining every effort she puts forth. She feels sabotaged at every turn. Often a project is praised one day and then completely ripped apart the next. The unpredictability of her boss and the lack of any company cohesiveness would have taken a toll on most people.

While her situation may be far different than one you are dealing with, any time our work impacts our lives in a negative manner, there is cause for concern. Sure, there are days at any job, even when you own your own business, when you will feel frustrated but working in an environment where you chronically feel “like a witch”, always angry or impatient,often taking out your frustrations at home with loved ones is just a disaster in progress.

My client is going to be okay. She’s started to work on her plan to launch her business, has a time frame and steps to reach her goal. Each time we speak, she is feeling more upbeat and positive.

She has made the choice to stop hoping things will change and start creating the steps she needs to remove herself from that situation,earning an income in a way she doesn’t feel compromised.

I don’t know what your situation is like but I do know if you cringe every night when you think about going into work the next day, if you find yourself crying about your job or feeling depressed just thinking about it, or if you feel like you have no way out and come home feeling like a witch or worse, then you should seek help.

Staying at a job that is changing your personality, perspective and inner peace will gradually start to infiltrate other aspects of your life. You may look in the mirror and wonder what happened to that positive and pleasant person you knew who felt full of potential and who was excited about the future.

When you have stayed too long at a place that is not a fit for you, it’s easy to find yourself feeling like someone who is only in your element as a witch, a nag, a complainer, or a resentful, ungrateful stranger.

Our work should be a reflection of our best skills, our passion, our true interest and our creativity. When you are asked to compromise your real self and take on a persona just to cope and get through the day, the impact starts to take a toll.

For some people, there is emotional impact, some experience physical symptoms and some feel like the witch my client described.

You may have bills, responsibilities and have to have an income, but ask yourself whether how you are earning it is costing you more than what you are really getting out of your job.

When that answer becomes a resounding,”Yes”, stop kidding yourself. Each day changes you a little more. Before you totally become someone you never wanted to be, start putting the pieces together to break free, to create a plan, to escape and move toward a better fit.

There is another way. Let’s talk. I know I can help you leave your broom behind.

What does your job make you feel like?

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WANT TO versus HAVE TO

Imagine:

  • Wanting to wake up early versus having to wake up early
  • Getting to change directions versus having to change directions
  • Getting to be in specific circumstances versus having to be in specific circumstances
  • Getting to be deserving of more versus having to settle for less

 Wanting to Go to Work Instead of Having to

How much of a difference would it make in your life if you were:

  • Getting to make as much money as you wanted versus having to make a set income?
  • Wanting to work as much or little as you wanted rather than having to punch a clock?
  • Getting to work with whomever you chose rather than having to work with whomever you’re told?
  • Getting to work wherever you wanted rather than having to work in a specific location?
  • Wanting to make a living doing what you love rather than having to make a living doing what you do?
  • Getting to be a better version of yourself rather than having to be someone you don’t even recognize anymore?

Most of you would say it would make a huge difference because YOU would be making the choices rather than having them made for you. Starting your own business is not for everyone, but sometimes it is the ONLY thing for some people.

Starting your own business is a serious commitment and certainly will be some of the hardest work you do, but then again, you’ll be doing it for you, on your terms, choosing who you work with, when you work, and where you work.

I can honestly tell you being a business owner was one of the hardest things I have ever worked at AND I can honestly tell you it was one of the best decisions I ever made.

Maybe you are tired of helping someone else be successful. Maybe you are tired of exchanging your hours for income that barely pays the bills. Maybe you are frustrated working in a culture that is toxic and sucks the joy out of you. Maybe you leave your job each day feeling it has robbed you of the kind of person you used to be and instead has created someone you don’t even like living with anymore.

Been there. It really is the pits, isn’t it?

Sometimes you have to ask yourself if there is more to life than just HAVING to do what you really don’t WANT to do anymore.

Then you have to ask yourself what you are willing to do to get what you WANT

Then You Get to Make a Choice

No, you don’t HAVE to, you get to. You can choose how to get from where you HAVE to be and what you HAVE to do to where you WANT to be and what you WANT to do.

And guess what?

Once you choose you will GET to where you WANT to be and GET to do what you WANT to do.

How do I know that?  I did it. Not once, but twice.

And…You don’t have to quit your job or change your entire life to do it. I didn’t.

But you will HAVE to make that choice if you WANT TO.

That’s my job. Every day I help someone put the pieces together to move from a day job to the DREAM JOB they want to be doing. Check out what some of them have had to say.

I’d like to be on your team. I know I can help you GET what you WANT instead of settling for what you HAVE.

Let’s talk. There’s no obligation and you know you have been thinking about this since forever.

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It’s About Time and that Dream Job

Let’s face it. It is about time. It’s always about time. It never fails when I work with clients, they often say “It’s about time” but WHY they say it often separates those who are committed and those who are still making excuses.

Where Are You On the About Time Spectrum?

I can always tell when I speak with a client who really wants nothing more than to change the direction of their career. They are all about doing whatever it takes to make that dream happen and even when it seems there will be some significant obstacles to overcome, they are seldom deterred, otherwise focused on creating a master plan for the day they can exit their day job and become a business owner. As that day nears, and often considerably before, I hear these comments:

“It’s about time I took control of my future.”

“It’s about time I left that job that made me miserable all the time.”

“I am so glad that I finally decided it was about time to stop playing their game and start playing mine.”

“My husband(wife) says it’s about time I am making the money I deserve.”

They realized what they wanted and went for it, because they realized, “It’s about time”.

Then there are those who want the same thing; more freedom to do what they love, have unlimited earning potential and be their own boss, but their comments don’t reflect the same kind of “It’s about Time” spirit. Their comments sound more like:

“I really want to have my own business but it’s just not the right time.
“It’s all about time and I have none left after I’m done working 40 plus hours a week.

“I’ve wanted to do this since I was young but there’s no time to ever get started.”

” I wish I had the time to really get this idea off the ground.”

“I know I could be successful if I had more time.”

Their comments about time reflect excuses, frustrations and especially lack of control.

For some people. there really is no time like the present. They are done telling themselves, “someday” and finished allowing another person’s schedule to dictate how they spend their days.” Yet, for others time seems elusive, unforgiving and most of all unable to be used to their benefit.

And…You know what. They are both right!

How to Get Time To Work for You

Everyone has 24 hours in a day. We decide how we use that time. Many of my clients are working a full time job or even more than one job and are raising families, going to school or taking care of a loved one. Some of their schedules would make you want to just pull the covers up over your head and not face another day, but I can assure you they do not see their 24 hours as limited or even restricted. No, they see every free minute as potential, a get out of jail free card, as one more chance to go after their dream.

You see, time is perception. Everyone gets the same amount but each person decides how to use it. How are you using your time? Is it the same old excuse or a motivation for change?

Ready to learn how to create the time you need to make your Dream Job happen? Join me for a FREE TELESEMINAR on THURSDAY January 19 at 8:00 p.m. EST and learn the tricks to creating your dream job even if you HAVE NO TIME! (Can’t attend…no problem, you’ll get the replay if you sign up)

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