You’ve been thinking about it for some time. Wondering if you finally should take the plunge. Is it the right one? You feel like maybe this is it, so what is stopping you?

Well, it might be time to lose your sexual virginity but the kind of virginity I’m talking about often doesn’t happen spontaneously in the heat of the moment.

I’m talking about the I want to do something different with my life,” virginity or the“ I have an idea but I just don’t have time to get it started,” virginity, or maybe your “This job sucks but where else am I going to make this kind of money?” virginity, even the, “I’m too old, too scared, too set in my ways,” virginity or my personal favorite, “I always wanted to____” virginity.

We are all novices at anything we try the first time. The thing is, there is always going to be one First Time and if you never let yourself experience it you won’t ever know if it was something meant for you or not.

Losing your virginity is scary, exciting, sometimes awkward and most definitely life-changing. Losing your virginity means you will encounter some very bumpy experiences and some of the best of your life. Losing your virginity means taking a bold step into the unknown and sometimes not being able to turn back and losing your virginity means accepting a different level of responsibility and ownership for your actions.

Wondering what it would be like is no substitute for actually experiencing it. At some point you need to stop reading and hearing about the things you dream of trying and start to really experience them.

You can’t truly create a major change by being on the virtutal end of the experience. You are going to have to lose your virginity, lose your fear and lose your inhibitions to really determine if the grass is greener and the experience all you hoped it would be.

Wishing you were your own boss while staying in a dead end job will turn into professional suicide in the long run.

Hoping to learn a new skill won’t advance your expertise unless you actually begin to develop the skill set.

Complaining about your circumstances is like throwing water on a fire while hoping it will re-ignite. You are just sabbotaging yourself using your precious time on more hot air than active pursuits to change your direction.

Dreaming about what you can do with a great idea will not make you master of your destiny. Lots of people have ideas. Successful people start ideas. You can take action or keep dreaming but the outcomes will be very different.

Telling yourself you are too old or too afraid to try something you have always wanted to try is an excuse you invented decades ago to have an alibi on hand whenever you did not want to use the word, “regret”.

Stop with all this nonsense.

Saying, “I always wanted to___” without ever even trying is like promising yourself you will start your diet “tomorrow” every morning of your life.

Losing your virginity is not experienced virtually.

Start your second career while working at your “just a job”.

Invest time or money in learning a new skill or in how to grow your business idea.

Take up a hobby, learn a sport or engage in some activities you have always told yourself, “Someday I will____”

Remember age is a number not a defining destination.

Start the wheels turning for completing the out of the box experience you always said you wish you could do.

Life is short.

Eliminate your fear of the unknown, performance anxiety, nagging second thoughts and worries about what others will think. What matters is what it means to YOU!

If you want to know what doing something you are truly passionate about is like, if you want to make the decisions instead of having them always made for you, if you want to lead instead of always being the follower, if you want to move beyond your circumstances, if you want to try something new, you will have to lose your virginity and DO SOMETHING you haven’t done before.

Everything is not regrettable except doing things we wish we would have done.

Stop regretting what you can do something about.

Isn’t it about time you became a first timer at making the rest of your life the best of your life?

Kathy Brunner is an author, speaker and branding specialist who helps people make their passion happen. LEARN MORE about how she can help you re-invent your life. Sign up for the FREE NEWSLETTER, to help you get started on your way.THIS

This article first appeared in MEDIUM